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misty
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 Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 4:10 pm Post subject: charmed by a russian... |
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HI,
I'm a european girl, and I'm hopeless in love with a russian boy.
We're both musicians (he plays viola, i play piano), we study at the same conservatory, and we already played together for music of chamber.
I like very much russian people, they're great musicians, but I also like their mentality, values, how they are.
The boy I'm in love with is very galant (opens doors, helps me with my jacket when we leave, ...). I don't really know if he has feelings for me, he's very charming and smiles when he see me, so I think he likes me. After we played together, he gave me a big hug to thank me. Is this a normal behaviour for russian mento a woman?
Also, I want to tell him about my feelings, but I'm to scared to do so.
I think it's not done for a girl to show she's in love, and certainly not in Russia.
What's the normal way in russia to date with someone, the last thing I want is to scare him if I propose something.
By the way: great site! |
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vitalsigns
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| I think just do what you would normally do in your country. It shouldn't be that much different. |
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misty
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Thanks for the answer, I think I'll wait and see what's coming, I'm to scared
to do something wrong.
Of course, all information about how a russian relation is like (especially a russian boy and a foreign girl) is still very welcome! |
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Violet-Lady
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| Posted: Sat Mar 25, 2006 6:45 pm Post subject: Re: charmed by a russian... |
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| misty wrote: | HI,
I'm a european girl, and I'm hopeless in love with a russian boy.
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The boy I'm in love with is very galant (opens doors, helps me with my jacket when we leave, ...). I don't really know if he has feelings for me, he's very charming and smiles when he see me, so I think he likes me. After we played together, he gave me a big hug to thank me. Is this a normal behaviour for russian mento a woman?
Also, I want to tell him about my feelings, but I'm to scared to do so.
I think it's not done for a girl to show she's in love, and certainly not in Russia.
What's the normal way in russia to date with someone, the last thing I want is to scare him if I propose something. |
I absolutely second this post!! A classmate of mine, a Russian guy, and I have started a friendship. He is generous to me and smiles and makes jokes when I am around. I'm not really looking to take it to the next level just yet, as I would like to create this solid friendship - but I could definitely see a romantic relationship happening.
Even in America it is [stupidly] important for the lady to play hard to get - and I assume it is equally, if not more so, important because of the higher level of male galant usually found in europe and russia..
any thoughts are welcome |
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Xela
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| As if it's not bad enough having all the clueless men coming over here and clogging up the site with questions about Russian love, now here come all the women.. |
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starryeyed346
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I believe love is universal. It doesnt matter what country you are in or what your backgound is. a crush is a crush and love is love.
Im a small town american girl who fell in love with a russian boy. hes been in the USA for like 6 or 7 years. With my experience with him... though we have cultural differences, feelings and actions and likes/dislikes are similar. We are on the same brainwave...though mine is in english and his is in russian. With my experiences with his FRIENDS, however... they are all so shy around women and they tend to put up this strong and great facade that i see right through. they can be polite and charming, but really they look and talk about women as tho they are objects.
But really, i think it has little to do with the fact that they are russian. You can find men like that everywhere. Follow your instincts and dont be afraid. If you like him, make a move. Show him what an euro girl is like! |
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MrSpice
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| starryeyed346 wrote: | I believe love is universal. It doesnt matter what country you are in or what your backgound is. a crush is a crush and love is love.
Im a small town american girl who fell in love with a russian boy. hes been in the USA for like 6 or 7 years. With my experience with him... though we have cultural differences, feelings and actions and likes/dislikes are similar. We are on the same brainwave...though mine is in english and his is in russian. With my experiences with his FRIENDS, however... they are all so shy around women and they tend to put up this strong and great facade that i see right through. they can be polite and charming, but really they look and talk about women as tho they are objects.
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I have to be honest with you - I think you're still very inexperienced and naive. Plus, blinded by love. There are certainly differences between the character and traits of a typical russian and someone who grew up in Michigan. Let's talk after 5 years of marriage and tell us if you still feel the same way. And I am not saying that you won't be happily married - quite possible you will be. But if you don't see the differences, that means you don't know enough about him and his friends. |
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starryeyed346
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| oh believe me, i see the differences. Its not a smooth road. It takes a LOT of patience and understanding. We are always explaining things to eachother... but both he and i are open minded and willing to learn. We enjoy teaching eachother and learning from eachother. Its no so bad being so different. Our beliefs and goals and work ethic are aligned. Our futures are parellel... and everything else just makes it a whole lot more interesting |
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MrSpice
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| starryeyed346 wrote: | | oh believe me, i see the differences. Its not a smooth road. It takes a LOT of patience and understanding. We are always explaining things to eachother... but both he and i are open minded and willing to learn. We enjoy teaching eachother and learning from eachother. Its no so bad being so different. Our beliefs and goals and work ethic are aligned. Our futures are parellel... and everything else just makes it a whole lot more interesting |
You enjoy the process because you are young and very much in love. Once the love is not that strong, you can get tired of explaining things to each other. One advice for you - learn to cook food Russian food for him. Russians love their Russian food and love when their wives can cook for them. If not, she will spend a lot of time at his mom's house... |
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jo-jo-7
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| MrSpice wrote: | | starryeyed346 wrote: | | oh believe me, i see the differences. Its not a smooth road. It takes a LOT of patience and understanding. We are always explaining things to eachother... but both he and i are open minded and willing to learn. We enjoy teaching eachother and learning from eachother. Its no so bad being so different. Our beliefs and goals and work ethic are aligned. Our futures are parellel... and everything else just makes it a whole lot more interesting |
You enjoy the process because you are young and very much in love. Once the love is not that strong, you can get tired of explaining things to each other. One advice for you - learn to cook food Russian food for him. Russians love their Russian food and love when their wives can cook for them. If not, she will spend a lot of time at his mom's house... |
Spicey cooks for his wife.....hehe...  Which is fine. I hope he can cook....  |
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surfguy
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| MrSpice wrote: | | starryeyed346 wrote: | I believe love is universal. It doesnt matter what country you are in or what your backgound is. a crush is a crush and love is love.
Im a small town american girl who fell in love with a russian boy. hes been in the USA for like 6 or 7 years. With my experience with him... though we have cultural differences, feelings and actions and likes/dislikes are similar. We are on the same brainwave...though mine is in english and his is in russian. With my experiences with his FRIENDS, however... they are all so shy around women and they tend to put up this strong and great facade that i see right through. they can be polite and charming, but really they look and talk about women as tho they are objects.
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I have to be honest with you - I think you're still very inexperienced and naive. Plus, blinded by love. There are certainly differences between the character and traits of a typical russian and someone who grew up in Michigan. Let's talk after 5 years of marriage and tell us if you still feel the same way. And I am not saying that you won't be happily married - quite possible you will be. But if you don't see the differences, that means you don't know enough about him and his friends. |
I agree with spice so enjoy it while you can...and knock on wood...just so you know Russians are very superstitious |
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PapaG
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| Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2007 7:05 am Post subject: Re: charmed by a russian... |
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| Violet Lady wrote: | Even in America it is [stupidly] important for the lady to play hard to get - and I assume it is equally, if not more so, important because of the higher level of male galant usually found in europe and russia..
any thoughts are welcome |
Don't play  hard to get.  Be hard to get. Exclusive relationships are prized. There is a value in waiting. Be the kind of person that is worth the effort.
Acting is trivial. Being is mission critical.  |
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krasatulya
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| Spice, your wife is Russian, isn't she? |
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vitalsigns
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| Who is your husband Krasotka? |
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tilston15381
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| Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 9:21 pm Post subject: distance...not a prob |
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| well....my girlfriend is Russian and she loves me like crazy! she would do anything for me! Even massages my feet! Its amazing! All i say is there are no boundries for things such as relationships! I live in UK, we met in 2005 in Malta when we were both on holiday! Jan08 I move to Moscow as an English Teacher, getting our own flat and everything! I hope she will still be massaging my feet after a day in the classroom with a bunch of noisy adolsents! grrrrr!!! |
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