| Author |
Message |
yorbcbud
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 17 Feb 2006
Posts: 4903
Location: Сорренто, Британская Колумбия, Канада
|
 Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 8:45 pm Post subject: |
 |
|
| jo jo 7 wrote: | | I think the internet is a great way to meet a person opposed to a bar. |
Thats right. Look how much you can find out about someone with very lttle awkward personal confrontation. That is, assuming that they are always being truthful. But you can help to avoid the weirdos, and stalkers, this way.
IMHO |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
krasatulya
VIP
Joined: 29 May 2005
Posts: 590
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 9:54 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| I met my husband at a bar, and he is very educated and cultured. Is there something wrong with people meeting in a bar? It is, after all, a common place where people go for social interaction, not simply to get wasted. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
yorbcbud
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 17 Feb 2006
Posts: 4903
Location: Сорренто, Британская Колумбия, Канада
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 10:40 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| krasatulya wrote: | | I met my husband at a bar, and he is very educated and cultured. Is there something wrong with people meeting in a bar? It is, after all, a common place where people go for social interaction, not simply to get wasted. |
There's nothing wrong with meeting people at a bar. But I don't drink, and when I went to bars, there were more people looking to party, than there were looking for a relationship. It has nothing to do with their level of intelligence. Your situation is probably an exception rather than a rule. I don't know many people who have come away from a club with a lifelong relationship. But, like I said, that's just my opinion. I have met many more nice. normal people on the internet, than I ever did in a bar. People who are drinking are rarely the same when they are straight. And there is more time to be thorough in your queries about the other person. Just seems safer to me. Again, IMHO |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
surfguy
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 13 Apr 2006
Posts: 6979
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 10:48 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| there is no wrong way to meet if the out come is the right one. Bar, internet, friends, family, work, traveling, public trasportation, museum...where ever...fact is when people meet and they hit it off...then that is the right way. My sister met her husband on the highway...they passed each other everyday and finally they both pulled over to meet each other...how cool is that. Well anyway if I met someone in a bar...and I have...that is ok too. Or on the internet and I have and that is ok too. The main thing I guess is that we know who and what we are getting. And of course that some times takes time. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
krasatulya
VIP
Joined: 29 May 2005
Posts: 590
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 10:56 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| The only reason I brought up intelligence and cultured aspect is because everyone makes it seem like the only type of people you'll meet in a bar are the scum of the earth or people looking just to hook-up, not someone you would bring home to your parents. I think meeting someone in a bar, you have more of a chance of follow-up meetings where you can get to know people face to face, as opposed to people who seek out their "sould mates" over the internet, where the chance of meeting and then something evolving is a lot less. That's my opinion at least. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
krasatulya
VIP
Joined: 29 May 2005
Posts: 590
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 10:57 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Meeting on the highway is one of the craziest ways I've heard of people meeting, that's awesome. What a good story to tell people. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
nikir
Frequent Guest
Joined: 17 Mar 2010
Posts: 54
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:26 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Bars, clubs, parties bbq's etc are my preferred way to meet people. Any face to face situation is more realistic than a virtual relationship. There is something about the chemistry that occurs in a spontaneous encounter that the internet cannot replicate. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
surfguy
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 13 Apr 2006
Posts: 6979
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:55 am Post subject: |
|
|
| nikir wrote: | | Bars, clubs, parties bbq's etc are my preferred way to meet people. Any face to face situation is more realistic than a virtual relationship. There is something about the chemistry that occurs in a spontaneous encounter that the internet cannot replicate. |
true...internet can't offer the face to face spontanaity |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
yorbcbud
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 17 Feb 2006
Posts: 4903
Location: Сорренто, Британская Колумбия, Канада
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 3:50 am Post subject: |
|
|
| surfguy wrote: | | nikir wrote: | | Bars, clubs, parties bbq's etc are my preferred way to meet people. Any face to face situation is more realistic than a virtual relationship. There is something about the chemistry that occurs in a spontaneous encounter that the internet cannot replicate. |
true...internet can't offer the face to face spontanaity |
I agree with bbq's. First impressions though, are rarely true and lasting ones. Especially when alcohol is involved. I still believe that you can learn more in an online relationship, as long as it is honest. But you'll discover the truth rather quickly when you meet. I have met many, many honest women online. I have noticed that the initial meetings online are frequent, but most fade off quickly, losing that initial attraction. But I really don't want to poo poo anyone's opinion here. I look for friends first, and not many people go to the bar looking for friends. Most of my friends online are looking for friends specifically, and the rest comes later. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
jo-jo-7
Just Starting
Joined: 16 Mar 2010
Posts: 6
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 4:10 am Post subject: |
|
|
| krasatulya wrote: | | I met my husband at a bar, and he is very educated and cultured. Is there something wrong with people meeting in a bar? It is, after all, a common place where people go for social interaction, not simply to get wasted. |
Krasatulya, Are the bars in Russia better for meeting people? I don't know what type of bars there are in Russia but, the ones here (KY) are not the best place to meet a person. I have been stalked before from meeting someone in a bar with some of my friends and almost got my butt killed. I was followed and got ran off the highway because I wouldn't dance with this guy. The same thing in NewYork, on my birthday. Maybe, the bars are better somewhere else more suttle or pleasant. I just never had any luck. I don't think it has anything to do with being educated and cultured. I go to dance, mostly. Hope I didn't offend you...  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
surfguy
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 13 Apr 2006
Posts: 6979
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 4:23 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Well...Krastulya didn't meet her husband in a Russian bar...remember her first visit to Russia was just a few months ago and that was to visit her new family. But meeting in Bars has the same rep as meeting on line does...niether are considered the optimum way to meet...but it doesn't mean that true romance can't happen...certainly it does. I for one don't go out to bars or on the internet to meet new interests. My last relationship happened in the best and most romantic way-straight out of the movies...and yet it only lasted a year. I have now met women on line and who knows where things will go. I also have met women while traveling and the internet has now kept us connected...far better than by phone too. And who knows where these friendships will go. It's been a while since I met someone in a bar...and actually the last relationship that I did was 10 years ago...cool girl and I regret ending it with her. So I guess really I've met some cool gilrs in Bars, on the Internet, and in many ways. There is no right-wrong-worse-or best...just when we meet something happens and it's for a reason. Oh yeah and just because someone is in a bar-doesn't mean they are an alcoholic...or even close to being one. That's a shallow statement. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
jo-jo-7
Just Starting
Joined: 16 Mar 2010
Posts: 6
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 4:37 am Post subject: |
|
|
| surfguy wrote: | | Well...Krastulya didn't meet her husband in a Russian bar...remember her first visit to Russia was just a few months ago and that was to visit her new family. But meeting in Bars has the same rep as meeting on line does...niether are considered the optimum way to meet...but it doesn't mean that true romance can't happen...certainly it does. I for one don't go out to bars or on the internet to meet new interests. My last relationship happened in the best and most romantic way-straight out of the movies...and yet it only lasted a year. I have now met women on line and who knows where things will go. I also have met women while traveling and the internet has now kept us connected...far better than by phone too. And who knows where these friendships will go. It's been a while since I met someone in a bar...and actually the last relationship that I did was 10 years ago...cool girl and I regret ending it with her. So I guess really I've met some cool gilrs in Bars, on the Internet, and in many ways. There is no right-wrong-worse-or best...just when we meet something happens and it's for a reason. Oh yeah and just because someone is in a bar-doesn't mean they are an alcoholic...or even close to being one. That's a shallow statement. |
 |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
surfguy
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 13 Apr 2006
Posts: 6979
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 4:44 am Post subject: |
|
|
| jo jo 7 wrote: | | surfguy wrote: | | Well...Krastulya didn't meet her husband in a Russian bar...remember her first visit to Russia was just a few months ago and that was to visit her new family. But meeting in Bars has the same rep as meeting on line does...niether are considered the optimum way to meet...but it doesn't mean that true romance can't happen...certainly it does. I for one don't go out to bars or on the internet to meet new interests. My last relationship happened in the best and most romantic way-straight out of the movies...and yet it only lasted a year. I have now met women on line and who knows where things will go. I also have met women while traveling and the internet has now kept us connected...far better than by phone too. And who knows where these friendships will go. It's been a while since I met someone in a bar...and actually the last relationship that I did was 10 years ago...cool girl and I regret ending it with her. So I guess really I've met some cool gilrs in Bars, on the Internet, and in many ways. There is no right-wrong-worse-or best...just when we meet something happens and it's for a reason. Oh yeah and just because someone is in a bar-doesn't mean they are an alcoholic...or even close to being one. That's a shallow statement. |
|
hmmm.... |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
jo-jo-7
Just Starting
Joined: 16 Mar 2010
Posts: 6
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 6:01 am Post subject: |
|
|
| nikir wrote: | | Bars, clubs, parties bbq's etc are my preferred way to meet people. Any face to face situation is more realistic than a virtual relationship. There is something about the chemistry that occurs in a spontaneous encounter that the internet cannot replicate. |
You gotta point but, without the bars.... |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
surfguy
Lounge Wizard
Joined: 13 Apr 2006
Posts: 6979
|
| Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 6:06 am Post subject: |
|
|
I'd just hate to meet somebody behind bars  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
FAQ
Search
Memberlist
Usergroups
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
