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Pete8400-wtr Frequent Guest Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 39 Location: Pionerskaya, Saint-Petersburg	Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2007 6:13 pm    Post subject: Invite question Hello, I have this awkward question.... I'm going to spend some time in SpB, mostly to see the sights and also some stuff concerning work (prospecting). Now I've been "invited" by a female person I've known for about a year to stay with her in her appartment instead of renting my own. The thing is that I don't know how to take this. (both single, same interests and such blablabla...) But not a hair on my head is interested in the "love thing". I know there are big differences in culture and such, so... Would this person be very offended if I said no? And how does one say that without offending (too much)... I'd rather convey that in a nice fashion.... Thanks, Pete
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MrSpice Lounge Wizard Joined: 14 Jul 2003 Posts: 3431	Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2007 10:02 pm    Post subject: Re: Invite question Pete8400 wrote: Hello, I have this awkward question.... I'm going to spend some time in SpB, mostly to see the sights and also some stuff concerning work (prospecting). Now I've been "invited" by a female person I've known for about a year to stay with her in her appartment instead of renting my own. The thing is that I don't know how to take this. (both single, same interests and such blablabla...) But not a hair on my head is interested in the "love thing". I know there are big differences in culture and such, so... Would this person be very offended if I said no? And how does one say that without offending (too much)... I'd rather convey that in a nice fashion.... Thanks, Pete You think too much. Go there and see how it goes....
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Pete8400-wtr Frequent Guest Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 39 Location: Pionerskaya, Saint-Petersburg	Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2007 10:15 pm    Post subject: Yes I know, very true, I think too much... occupational hazard I suppose. Thank you for the reply... So basically I don't say anything, just book my flat, and accept the invite?
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nikir Frequent Guest Joined: 17 Mar 2010 Posts: 54	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 1:42 am    Post subject: If you feel awkward about this, then why not clarify the situation by asking your friend what she expects? You may find that she is just being open and generous and has no hidden agenda.
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MrSpice Lounge Wizard Joined: 14 Jul 2003 Posts: 3431	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 7:26 am    Post subject: Re: Invite question Pete8400 wrote: Hello, I have this awkward question.... I'm going to spend some time in SpB, mostly to see the sights and also some stuff concerning work (prospecting). Now I've been "invited" by a female person I've known for about a year to stay with her in her appartment instead of renting my own. The thing is that I don't know how to take this. (both single, same interests and such blablabla...) But not a hair on my head is interested in the "love thing". I know there are big differences in culture and such, so... Would this person be very offended if I said no? And how does one say that without offending (too much)... I'd rather convey that in a nice fashion.... Thanks, Pete Sorry, I think I misunderstood what you said - I mean, did not read it far enough. If you don't want to have any kind of romance/sex, then obviously don't stay with a single girl under the same roof. You have several options: 1) Tell her you're gay - that's a joke 2) Tell her you had an operation on your balls - another joke 3) Tell her you have a girlfriend back home 4) What is wrong with you? You're a single man and a single woman wants you...
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Pete8400-wtr Frequent Guest Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 39 Location: Pionerskaya, Saint-Petersburg	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 7:30 pm    Post subject: Thanks Mr Spice..... I think Option 1, 2 and 3 are very impossible as these have already been communicated over time... Option 4; Yes, I know... probably for a lot of people that would be considered an invitation to heaven and pure bliss ....I'd rather not take that route and have her as friends I'm perfectly happy as I am now.... and that's also the reason why I don't want to come over as gross, inconsiderate and offensive.... I'd rather stay diplomatic and say the right things... over here you can invite somebody in your home just like that, but it sometimes gets seen as provocative when it's mixed sexes, so that was why I asked, because of all the things I read about Russian hospitality.... But as you said before, I think too much... Thanks again!
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surfguy Lounge Wizard Joined: 13 Apr 2006 Posts: 6979	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 10:20 pm    Post subject: just go over and have a good time...and since you are not interested in her then don't get romantically involved. The worse thing would be to sleep with her and then not be involved...go over as a friend...act as a friend...and be a friend. Sounds pretty simple!
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Pete8400-wtr Frequent Guest Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 39 Location: Pionerskaya, Saint-Petersburg	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 10:31 pm    Post subject: Thank you! Really! You've all taken the "worry" part away from this predicament of mine. Must sound silly to you, but I pride myself, in these days where people are mostly non considerate about eachother, to try my best to be considerate to all people I encounter. One predicament down...now the rest... the trip to Russia... Thank you very much again. PS, my apologies for my broken English.....
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krasatulya VIP Joined: 29 May 2005 Posts: 590	Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 11:06 pm    Post subject: Broken English? It looks pretty darn good to me!
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Pete8400-wtr Frequent Guest Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 39 Location: Pionerskaya, Saint-Petersburg	Posted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 11:06 pm    Post subject: Thank you, that is very kind of you! Now if only I manage to get a bit eloquent in Russian before I go...
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