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Singer
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How can someone say to you he loves you and then play around with others. It's sick. If I will find out that that is really the fact I guess I should just become a nun. I gave everything I had. I moved to another country, much harder to live in than my own, left friends and family, learned a new language. Everything for one single person. Because I love him. Am I stupid I wonder. Naive I guess. Been watching to many american movies with happy end ever after.  I need a shrink. |
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 10:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Singer wrote: | | How can someone say to you he loves you and then play around with others. It's sick. If I will find out that that is really the fact I guess I should just become a nun. I gave everything I had. I moved to another country, much harder to live in than my own, left friends and family, learned a new language. Everything for one single person. Because I love him. Am I stupid I wonder. Naive I guess. Been watching to many american movies with happy end ever after. I need a shrink. |
As a few have mentioned, Russian men have no qualms about cheating on their girlfriends, or spouses. That is just the culture I guess, but you have NOT been naive in trusting someone who has im guessing, shown you that he loved you in the past? The problem is his, and not yours. You need to just dump this guy, sort out your priorities, and never hold it against anyone else. There are alot of nice men out there, and this guy is not going to be happy in his life doing the things he does, because what comes around, does eventually go around. I am sorry this happened to you, but please do not destroy your own life over someone who didnt deserve you. |
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krasatulya
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Singer: Have you actually confronted your bf over what you was written from his former schoolmate? Although it does sound suspicious, I don't think you should tar and feather him quite yet, at least until you give him a chance to explain himself. Maybe after speaking to this girl, and her saying the things she said, he put her in her place and ensured that there would be no future communications.
If your fears are realized, and he is a loser, then no one is to blame but him. Like Fire G said, you did nothing wrong trusting someone and assuming that trust would be reciprocated. |
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surfguy
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| I think there is always some truth in what we suspect...and trust your instincts...I've dealt with this on a few occasions. You are a young person so don't be afraid to move on and find that more secure relationship...and there are plenty of good men out there and you will find the one who balances you. The thing is that some times we end up in relationships where we are into the other person more than they are into us. Anyways...sounds like this has been going on for a couple of weeks at least so I'm sure you are not giving out all the details...but trust your instincts and you will do what is right. And if he is involved with someone else...never take him back and get rid of him. Love...it either is or it isn't...no in between |
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 11:15 pm Post subject: |
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| surfguy wrote: | | Love...it either is or it isn't...no in between |
Exactly! |
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vitalsigns
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| Fire_Goddess wrote: | | surfguy wrote: | | Love...it either is or it isn't...no in between |
Exactly! |
You and I have been in and out of love all the time, and yet look at us we are still together, going strong as never before. I guess it can be in between and be great!  |
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vitalsigns
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| krasatulya wrote: | Singer: Have you actually confronted your bf over what you was written from his former schoolmate? Although it does sound suspicious, I don't think you should tar and feather him quite yet, at least until you give him a chance to explain himself. Maybe after speaking to this girl, and her saying the things she said, he put her in her place and ensured that there would be no future communications.
If your fears are realized, and he is a loser, then no one is to blame but him. Like Fire G said, you did nothing wrong trusting someone and assuming that trust would be reciprocated. |
Luscious lips, I decided not to go to Krasnodar this time. Instead I'll go to Moscow to hang out with some of my friends. Enjoy your time in "small Paris" as they call it (or something like it). |
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krasatulya
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| vitalsigns wrote: | | krasatulya wrote: | Singer: Have you actually confronted your bf over what you was written from his former schoolmate? Although it does sound suspicious, I don't think you should tar and feather him quite yet, at least until you give him a chance to explain himself. Maybe after speaking to this girl, and her saying the things she said, he put her in her place and ensured that there would be no future communications.
If your fears are realized, and he is a loser, then no one is to blame but him. Like Fire G said, you did nothing wrong trusting someone and assuming that trust would be reciprocated. |
Luscious lips, I decided not to go to Krasnodar this time. Instead I'll go to Moscow to hang out with some of my friends. Enjoy your time in "small Paris" as they call it (or something like it). |
That's too bad, VS, but Moscow should be a nice time and will involve less flying. Hope you have a nice time...it's coming up quick!
Small Paris...yes, I think I recall the muzh referring to it as something like that...I'll have to ask him about it. |
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