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Yuri-s-Girl
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Another great read on a very interesting topic!
I am 43, have no kids and it's looking like I won't be having any, getting too old. My boyfriend, being a man, could have kids until he drops dead. I don't know what the future holds but if he ever decides he wants to have children, that would be the end of us. Shame but what can you do.
I wouldn't think twice of dating a man with children. I don't know how I would be as a stepmom but if it ever came to that, hey, you can only try right.
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 5:35 am Post subject: |
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| Yuri's Girl wrote: |
I am 43 |
 Huh? I would have never guessed.  |
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| Fire_Goddess wrote: | | Yuri's Girl wrote: |
I am 43 |
Huh? I would have never guessed. |
Seriously?
Hmmmm, is that a good thing? 
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 5:39 am Post subject: |
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Seriously?
Hmmmm, is that a good thing?
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You just seemed like someone under 30. |
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| Fire_Goddess wrote: | | Yuri's Girl wrote: |
Seriously?
Hmmmm, is that a good thing?
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You just seemed like someone under 30. |
Ah, then it's a good thing! 
Part of me still feels like a youngster, part of my mindset I guess.
Your only as old as you feel. Maybe it's the fact I never did have kids, I didn't have to become a grownup!
The body sure feels like it's 43 though. Not working out enough or at all right now.
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 5:47 am Post subject: |
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Ah, then it's a good thing!
Part of me still feels like a youngster, part of my mindset I guess.
Your only as old as you feel. Maybe it's the fact I never did have kids, I didn't have to become a grownup!
The body sure feels like it's 43 though. Not working out enough or at all right now.
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Have you mostly dated younger men in the past? Does your current boyfriend have existing children? |
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| Fire_Goddess wrote: | | Yuri's Girl wrote: |
Ah, then it's a good thing!
Part of me still feels like a youngster, part of my mindset I guess.
Your only as old as you feel. Maybe it's the fact I never did have kids, I didn't have to become a grownup!
The body sure feels like it's 43 though. Not working out enough or at all right now.
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Have you mostly dated younger men in the past? Does your current boyfriend have existing children? |
Actually, most of the men I have dated have been a bit younger now that I think about it.
My last serious relationship before Yuri was an older man, he was 16 years older than me. I was 28 he was 44, some 15 years ago now. Yuri has no kids. His last serious relationship back home in the Ukraine, over 11 years ago now, she did get pregnant, he wanted to keep the child and get married, she wanted to finish school and pursue a career. Thus she terminated the pregnancy. I was sort of shocked, like wow, but it would be hard to do both, have a child and try to go to school. Then of course the fall of the Soviet Union, threw everything into turmoil and the future didn't look so rosy. He came here and he lost touch with her. Kind of sad really.
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 5:59 am Post subject: |
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Actually, most of the men I have dated have been a bit younger now that I think about it.
My last serious relationship before Yuri was an older man, he was 16 years older than me. I was 28 he was 44, some 15 years ago now. Yuri has no kids. His last serious relationship back home in the Ukraine, over 11 years ago now, she did get pregnant, he wanted to keep the child and get married, she wanted to finish school and pursue a career. Thus she terminated the pregnancy. I was sort of shocked, like wow, but it would be hard to do both, have a child and try to go to school. Then of course the fall of the Soviet Union, threw everything into turmoil and the future didn't look so rosy. He came here and he lost touch with her. Kind of sad really.
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Hmmm, so he has never expressed a desire for marriage and children? |
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jo-jo-7
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| Yuri's Girl wrote: |
Another great read on a very interesting topic!
I am 43, have no kids and it's looking like I won't be having any, getting too old. My boyfriend, being a man, could have kids until he drops dead. I don't know what the future holds but if he ever decides he wants to have children, that would be the end of us. Shame but what can you do.
I wouldn't think twice of dating a man with children. I don't know how I would be as a stepmom but if it ever came to that, hey, you can only try right.
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So, how long have you been dating him? It sounds like he is alot younger than you.
I do not have children but hopefully next year. My mom had my brother at 42 years old and my grandmother had my uncle when she was 42, funny they all say that I probably will too.
If I met a man with children, it wouldn't bother me at all since I like kids. |
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 6:13 am Post subject: |
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| Fire_Goddess wrote: | | Yuri's Girl wrote: |
Actually, most of the men I have dated have been a bit younger now that I think about it.
My last serious relationship before Yuri was an older man, he was 16 years older than me. I was 28 he was 44, some 15 years ago now. Yuri has no kids. His last serious relationship back home in the Ukraine, over 11 years ago now, she did get pregnant, he wanted to keep the child and get married, she wanted to finish school and pursue a career. Thus she terminated the pregnancy. I was sort of shocked, like wow, but it would be hard to do both, have a child and try to go to school. Then of course the fall of the Soviet Union, threw everything into turmoil and the future didn't look so rosy. He came here and he lost touch with her. Kind of sad really.
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Hmmm, so he has never expressed a desire for marriage and children? |
No, not yet. We have been dating since January of this year.
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| jo jo 7 wrote: | | Yuri's Girl wrote: |
Another great read on a very interesting topic!
I am 43, have no kids and it's looking like I won't be having any, getting too old. My boyfriend, being a man, could have kids until he drops dead. I don't know what the future holds but if he ever decides he wants to have children, that would be the end of us. Shame but what can you do.
I wouldn't think twice of dating a man with children. I don't know how I would be as a stepmom but if it ever came to that, hey, you can only try right.
YG |
So, how long have you been dating him? It sounds like he is alot younger than you.
I do not have children but hopefully next year. My mom had my brother at 42 years old and my grandmother had my uncle when she was 42, funny they all say that I probably will too.
If I met a man with children, it wouldn't bother me at all since I like kids. |
He's older actually, 46 to my 43.
I don't know if I am marriage material to him!
Still learning about who he is and the same for him I imagine.
Okay girls, gotta go get some DVD's!
It was nice chatting.
Like to do it again sometime.
See you, have a good night!
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Racer
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Sorry I couldn't get back to you guys sooner--I had to go get my tooth pulled. 
Thanks to everyone who took a stab at an answer to what I know is really an unanswerable question. This is such a major life subject I knew it would always be something that would vary person to person and relationship to relationship, but I thought it would be wise to try to find out what the cultural norms were, while knowing individual feelings could be different. But by knowing what their culture has been beating into their heads all their lives (just like ours does us), I might have a better chance at understanding why or how strongly they felt about any given thing. I agree one has to be absolutely honest in a relationship, especially about such a potentially deep seated subject, but I also know that (especially early in a relationship) people often, knowingly or unknowingly, color their responses toward what they think you want to hear. I would rather know the truth, and I thought knowing some background might help in that.
Who would have thought--a post that started as a mudbath degenerating into an actual discussion. Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? Thanks, guys, it was fun! Although I do feel a little guilty getting into a battle of wits with an unarmed man. Until next time... |
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Yuri-s-Girl
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| Racer wrote: | Sorry I couldn't get back to you guys sooner--I had to go get my tooth pulled.
Thanks to everyone who took a stab at an answer to what I know is really an unanswerable question. This is such a major life subject I knew it would always be something that would vary person to person and relationship to relationship, but I thought it would be wise to try to find out what the cultural norms were, while knowing individual feelings could be different. But by knowing what their culture has been beating into their heads all their lives (just like ours does us), I might have a better chance at understanding why or how strongly they felt about any given thing. I agree one has to be absolutely honest in a relationship, especially about such a potentially deep seated subject, but I also know that (especially early in a relationship) people often, knowingly or unknowingly, color their responses toward what they think you want to hear. I would rather know the truth, and I thought knowing some background might help in that.
Who would have thought--a post that started as a mudbath degenerating into an actual discussion. Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? Thanks, guys, it was fun! Although I do feel a little guilty getting into a battle of wits with an unarmed man. Until next time... |
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Fire_Goddess
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 8:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Racer wrote: | | Sorry I couldn't get back to you guys sooner--I had to go get my tooth pulled. |
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surfguy
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| yes...but actually your teeth would have fit right in if you were in the UK or Russia |
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