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nigelinleeds
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Joined: 21 Jun 2005
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 Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 8:03 pm Post subject: Help this romantic fool !! |
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| Hi all, my relationship with a Russian girl is hanging on by a thread. I want to make a little jesture of sending some flowers, I was thinking of some every day for a week with a small note. As I live in the UK it would cost a fortune (being careless I seem to have misplaced my fortune !!!) She lives in Angarsk (Irkutsk region, Siberia) Anyone know someone trustworthy who I could send some money to to arrange this ? or am being a fool?. Thanks |
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mediashark
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 8:10 pm Post subject: |
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Only know of such gift/flower-delivery services in Moscow and Piter...
I hope she hadn't been the reason for the loss of your fortune!?  
Anyway it's very sweet of you. But perhaps you should make a visit to Russia yourself? |
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nigelinleeds
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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thanks...been twice, once to Angarsk and then to Moscow (she couldn't get a visa as the embassy thought she wouldn't return) I dashed off to Moscow . to make a long story short a combination of tiredness, my mother being ill (she had heart attack the day after I arrived --she is OK now) and my hotel booking not working , we argued , I left ( I know!!, I think I must have misplaced my sense along with my fortune  ) Its just with my Russian being poor I thought a small jesture might help. |
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mediashark
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 9:30 pm Post subject: |
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tsk. tsk...
I know it's hard to hear, but a long-distance relationship is always hard.
Anyway, there is still DHL to send a small gift with a card if you can't find a delivery service. Pricy, I know, but lets hope you won't lose your sense with another bit of your fortune this time... |
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mediashark
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 9:37 pm Post subject: |
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Someone posted this site:
http://www.roses.ru/
Looks like you do have a solution for the flowers at least!
Good luck and all the best! |
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MrSpice
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| I cannot believe you can maintain a real relationship with a russian girl that lives far away, can't come to you because she can't get a visa and given the fact that you don't even speak decent russian. How can you even call it a relationship? What kind of future are you thinking of? It's not like she lives 2 blocks away from you. I think you should give roses to someone who lives close to you and speaks the same language as you are. But it's up to you... |
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mediashark
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 9:56 pm Post subject: |
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Have you considered a long-term stay in Russia, or migration? Do you see any future like marriage?
Right now the situation will be unsteady, it's completely up to you--not the visa or hotel bookings--to let go or go on. |
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nigelinleeds
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| Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| thanks for the link. Yes , I have/am considering a long term stay. She has had a visa before, that is how we met, she was visiting a work colleagues wife, I had to see him for some trivial reason. Despite (or maybe because !!) of the language differences there was a spark between us. Can I call this a relationship ? well, sort of, but in slow motion. Having a long distance romance was the last thing on my list of ideal partners, but I prefer to let my heart rule my head, not the most practical way to run my life, but we only have one life and I'd rather live my life with emotions (good AND bad) than trudge through life safely. Maybe things will work out, maybe they won't, but at least I've tried. I did get to visit Lake Baikal which is spectaculaly beautiful and if thats all that comes of this then I'll regret nothing.As for the language difference, well, I try to choose the exact words I want to say so hopefully there is less chance of saying something stupid (I am somewhat an expert at that !!) without thinking. |
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cyndy22
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Nigelinleeds,
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain, i.e. Mr. Spice.
I am happy for you that you found a woman who has captured your heart, even if she is Russian and lives far away etc. You are right that we only have one life and even more so, we only have NOW! Good for you that you care and recognize this. While it might be too costly to send flowers to your sweetheart for a week, send her one bouquet and write and phone her. Life is short and sweet. I wish you and her the very best. |
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mediashark
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| Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2005 1:33 pm Post subject: |
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| Why don't you enroll as a student to learn Russian in Russia? That would give you something to do (a purpose) and improve your communication with her. Even if it doesn't work out, you'll be left with some quals in a language, get to experience life in Russia and all that. |
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byte
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mediashark: good tip.
nigelinleeds: You're right. Use ratio to make things happen, but don't let it rule your life. Positive decisions can't be based on analysis alone. |
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nigelinleeds
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| thanks for the positive feedback (from most of you) I managed to talk to her yesterday from work. I forgot my Russian dictionary but managed to talk a while, mostly just trivial stuff, we will talk again Sunday (thank god for Skype) Having read my own post I managed to contact my ex work colleague (after many phone calls), his wife is going to contact her family to see if one will arrange things for me. As for spending a long time there, it's not possible at the moment, I do contract IT work and have a contract for another 10 months, it would cost me thousands of pounds to quit. I am hoping that I can visit for a couple of weeks over christmas (ours) and new year. I would enrol on a Russian course here but I often travel aroubd the country so I can't. I try to practice half an hour a day plus when I'm talking I try to think of the Russian and look up words I don't know. More fun than reading IT books too !!. I think if we all lived our lives with open minds and open hearts the world would be a better place. OK, I might get hurt through this "relationship" but I am who I am and will never give in to the cynics of this world. |
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MrSpice
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Not might, you will get hurt.
Instead you should go to Cyndy's town in Western Massachussets where everyone is very friendly and warm and meet someone there. |
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Paul-Holmes
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| LMFAO |
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MrSpice
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| Paul - I am glad you are back even though you don't say much :) |
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