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MrSpice
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| Argentine_Princessa: I think carlitos is right and WayToRussia admin is right. You have to understand that there are some differences in culture between latin people and russian people. Also, maybe he does not love you. How can we know from this short post? Regarding homosexuals, I have to say that this is something common to russians and those that grew up in Russia - we are somewhat homophobic. I know quite a few people that would not feel comfortable in the group where many people are openly gay and show it. Frnakly, many men would not feel comfortable around other gay men. That's life. |
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Mr-Purves
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| Certainly true that many men feel uncomfortable around a group of openly gay men. |
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Kathe
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one of the reasons I wrote my post about my Russian-Born Love was this post. Now granted, one cannot generalize.
Maybe it is a communication problem. Does he have a clear understanding of what your expectations are? I have found with my Fellow that because English is not his first language, and his is from a different culture, that instead of having him guess what I need, I tell him.
Luckily for me, he is pretty sensitive to my mood(s), and VERY observant.
Now, one thought, if you know he is uncomfortable with homosexuals, and then you insist on hanging around with some, he could/would view that as disrespect on your part. I base that on, my Love asks very little of me, true enough, and does not ever presume to tell me whom I can, or can not be friends with. But if I knew that homosexuality made him uncomfortable, I would not have friends who are openly gay around him. I have plenty of my own personal time while he is at work. I could associate with a friend, (or friends) during that time.
If he told me....."I really do not like so-and-so Dear....", then I would not put him in an uncomfortable position. Nor would I tell him why he is "wrong". He is, after all, entitled to his feelings.
Now, you were talking about his comforting you when you are upset.
Perhaps he is not sure what you want. I am NOT defending him. Don't think I am- maybe he really is a "cold-fish".
Maybe you two simply are not right for each other. Take a good look at the realtionship.
Based on what I am seeing here, sounds like he is not the Man for you. Fair enough. Cut your losses and move on.
But do not blame his being "Russian" for his behavior.
There are three sides to every story. His, Hers, and the Truth. The Truth is always somewhere in the middle, Da?
I am no "Russian apologist" by ANY means, but I have some experience in this area.
Just think about it. |
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vitalsigns
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| Mother-son/father-daughter attitude in relationships hardly ever work and those relationships do not survive in a long run. Maybe I am stepping on Kathe's toes but I can't help but seeing a mother-son type relationship between her and her russian man. Am I wrong? |
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Fire_Goddess
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| vitalsigns wrote: | | Mother-son/father-daughter attitude in relationships hardly ever work and those relationships do not survive in a long run. Maybe I am stepping on Kathe's toes but I can't help but seeing a mother-son type relationship between her and her russian man. Am I wrong? |
I just wonder where she found this man  |
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Argentine_Princessa
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| Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 4:50 am Post subject: Sorry |
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eng90646
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I think perhaps it has to do with culture and upbringing. SOme cultures tend to encourage sharing of affection more openly, some more subtle.
It is too easy for a person to judge another based on his/her perspective, without sufficently understanding the context in which things happen.
I think it is easier to understand this when you get to know more people who grow up in different cultures. |
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