Way to Russia Talk Lounge

lizka · Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2003 11:03 pm Post subject: Russian Men

I wanted to post this and this section seemed like the most suited place to post it. Wink

I just wanted to know how everyone feels about Russian men? I notice [well it's pretty obvious] that Russian women get all of the attention, but you never hear people talking about the guys over there. Shocked

Which I happen to think is lame because they have the best looking guys on the planet. Laughing

So, what do you think? How do they differ from American men? What's the best/worst things about the 'general' population of men there?

Lizka

Sneezi · Guest

aha...there you go.
i'm obviously not the only one who has noticed there's something special about russian men. or rather, men from the former ussr. i hvave met only a few russians, but all, i stress, all, of them were good looking, and very nice. moreover, i especially like the chechnyans, oh-my-gosh, they're all so well-built, masculine, and classically handsome. you might also find a couple of nice ones in kazhakstan and uzbekistan. i have had a few encounters with kazhak men, and they left a lasting impression... Smile

*HUGS*

Michael · Guest

Greetings,

Well, the fact that there is not much to be said about Russian men is because first of all there are not that many of them. There are a lot more women in Russia than men, especially outside of the European part of Russia (Moscow and St.-Petersburg).

On my three month trip to Russia (from the European part to the republic of Buryatia in Siberia), I met only a few men, decent enough to have a talk with. In general I met a lot of men who are either weak-charactered and not able to resist the excessive use of alcohol, with all problems following. Of course they are not all like this, just I noticed it a lot and there are already not many men as I told you before (in comparison to women).

Another point is that Russian men haven't seem to start realising yet that a woman is not an object that has to be conquered and that has to obey his commands. That is also another important point why you don't hear much about Russian men, because they are not always the nicest persons for a man-woman relationship. That's why a lot of Russian women fall in love with foreigners and therefore you hear much more about them outside of Russia than about men.

I do not want to put a mark on anyone, especially not on Russian men of whom I have some very good friends. This was just my general observation, and some of what the Russian women told me when I was there.

Regards,

Michael

DianaD · Just Starting Joined: 04 May 2003 Posts: 3 Location: USA

Dear Lizka,

I am Russian and have been living in the States for 2 years after travelingin Europe a bit...my long-term (boy)friend is Russian. Recently we cannot stand living together because,partly, for me it's getting obvious: he thinks that I became too "americanized" e.g. feminist man-hater, too politically correct and don't dress up for him as aproper woman should. Many male friends of mine at home are used to take girls' attention for granted and feel like a center of the universe. Although there're many who are not that way. It's pretty cool that you try to understand another culture; since I look Caucasian, sometimes people tend to overlook my background...

Indeed, I'm having easier time with some American men who seem to be more open-minded, confident, and laid-back. The whole "Russian bride" deal bothers me a great deal though; many guys my age (i'm 23) view me as an exotic foreigner and are pretty ignorant. When I don't want to date them they say that I am stuck up and don't want to work out the "cultural differences". Perhaps so. It's confusing for me, too. Still trying to figure out both types: Russian and American:) If you'd like to discuss this interesting stuff further, please email me at deardana@mail.ru

Best regards,
Diana

Bender · Posted: Thu May 08, 2003 11:30 am Post subject:

hey its great that you came to the states. how did you abtain your visa if you dont mind me asking? ill be in st peter for the celebration . im meeting someone there . she may be interested in coming to america to but from what i understand its damn near impossible for a single russian woman to get a visa othr that the fiance visa.
why is this so?

mike

David M Rowell · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2003 1:45 am Post subject:

I just wanted to rebut one bit of nonsense quoted as if it were fact by previous poster Michael in this thread.

He said

Just Wait · Guest

Guest · Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2003 9:06 pm Post subject: russian men

Hello everyone,

Since this topic is quickly going from social/sociological to political, I will throw in my two cents. I think it is sad that the majority of world citizens don't recognize the great losses Russia suffered during WWII. They lost more men than any other ethnic group during those years. Even more than the jews during the holocaust. Chechnya or not, so many wonderful young men died in that country, but all you ever hear about these days is the turmoil in the middle east. I was recently reading the population statistics for the world and the prognosis for Russian men in the future is fairly grim, not due to wars, but due to birth rate/death rate and health in the country in general.

Anyway back to the topic at hand: Russian men!

I recently met a young man in Russia who is beyond compare. He may be the only one of his kind but I can say that in all of my life I've never encountered one like him. He is extremely intelligent, honorable, honest, sweet, and supportive. Not like American men! After talking to some Russian women about this phenomenon, many say the same things that were said in earlier posts: women are objects, made to do all the work, etc etc. But my experience with this person is different.

So I think that in the younger generations (35 and under, for example) that the chauvanism people talk about is less the case now than it used to be (not a study, just a guess). One of my Russian gal pals told me that Russian men never talk about feelings and never do the loveydovey stuff... but when they DO say something you KNOW it comes from the heart, you KNOW they're not lying or playing games with you (unlike, say, a (theoretical) Frenchman might). To me, I'd rather have someone be honest with me than lead me on (been there, done that!). I think American men could learn a lot from Russian men! Opening doors for you, walking you home, insisting on paying for you... they are true gentlemen! Those are the traditions that we don't have in America that (to me personally) make all the difference!

Nell · Just Starting Joined: 28 Jul 2004 Posts: 3

[So I think that in the younger generations (35 and under, for example) that the chauvanism people talk about is less the case now than it used to be (not a study, just a guess).

I can report of at least one of the over 35 set that qualifies as non-chauvanistic! Smile

With my usual luck, I can only figure I am not the only one to find such a gem. Wink

Jutrzenkapolska · VIP Joined: 16 Sep 2004 Posts: 534

Recently, on vacation, I met one of the most wonderful, kindest, gentlest, talented, smart, understanding men I have ever known and he was a Russian.This guy singlehandedly turned me into a russophile.

If I wasn't dating someone else at the time, I would have been crazily in love with him but as it happened, vacation eventually ended and we parted friends .

Lindsay · Frequent Guest Joined: 27 Oct 2004 Posts: 24

I personally find Russian men very attractive. When I was in Russia over the winter I travelled alone, and unfortunately didn't have the opportunity to meet any.

I'm so glad someone else feels the same way as I do. I just swoon when I hear the male Russian accent!

mountaingirl · Frequent Guest Joined: 06 Sep 2004 Posts: 57

Shew! It's about time we got on a real subject around here! Wink

I agree, Russian men are VERY attractive. What sets them apart is the masculine attitude and chivalrous demeanour. I fell head over heels for one when I was in Russia, he was kind, lots of fun, good sense of humor, and treated me like a lady. Unlike the men in America, who seem to think all young women are modeling themselves after Brittany Spears and want to be treated as such! Not to mention He was drop-dead gorgeous!!!! Wink

wu687 · Posted: Wed Oct 27, 2004 10:46 pm Post subject:

Maybe Winston should look for a Russian man!!

mountaingirl · Frequent Guest Joined: 06 Sep 2004 Posts: 57

Ah, heck...he wouldn't have anymore luck with them. Judging by his taste, I'd say he should just stay single, and try enjoying it. Because I have a feeling, thats what he is going to be for the rest of his life!! Wink

Lindsay · Frequent Guest Joined: 27 Oct 2004 Posts: 24

Are there any Russian men on this forum?