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vitalsigns
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| Media, what russian habit? |
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jo-jo-7
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Blackcat
May I ask you, do you know his age and how old are you? I am a female so if you want to tell me in my pm box that is fine. Just curious to know how old this man is.
I think Russian men are slow in making their move. There was a similiar thread not long ago where this Russian man took forever to make a move on the relationship. That is just their way. Give it a little more time. Don't push him out yet. It might be smart to keep asking questions. He might be married and you wouldn't know it.  |
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nikir
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Jojo, I wait, barely breathing, for your next suggestion. Who needs television?
It's late here and I'm going to bed, but will look in tomorrow as soon as my eyes open, to read your words of wisdom. |
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yorbcbud
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Location: Сорренто, Британская Колумбия, Канада
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| BlackCat wrote: | | Thanks again everyone! Honestly, I'm thinking about just kicking this guy to the curb...lol. He's strange...he tells me I'm beautiful, he says he finds me attractive and interesting and he's always waiting for my messages, but I'm the one always asking him questions about himself and he only asks me questions after I ask him (except when he initiated contact with me in the very beginning!)...for example: When I asked him "Do you have a girlfriend?" He answered and then in his message said to me "You asked me about girlfriend...what about you? You have boyfriend?" He NEVER takes the initiative to ask me anything. Also, he hasn't told me much about himself in general (besides the questions I ask him). He might slip in a "new" thing or two, he definitely knows a lot more about me then I know of him. I don't care where this guy's from, he's just not worth my effort, if he can't try to be more open with me, then he's not all that interested as far as I'm concerned. |
Why don't you just consider him a new friend, since you can't have anything else, without first being friends, anyway. Maybe he's just nervous, and a bit shy? Maybe you are kicking a good friend to the curb, before you even know him? |
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surfguy
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| Well Blackcat as I said...pull away and stop conversing with him. 1. You guys are worlds apart, 2. there is a cultural difference. 3. he is playing with you 3. Don't set yourself up. 4. He is not serious. 5. there are lots of men out there 6. Long distance affairs are very difficult and often times not worth the effort. 7. If he is interested...he'll chase you...and because of the chase he will want you more and respect you. 8. And any decent man will stop at nothing to get whatever it is that we want...new car, new house, new set of golf clubs, travel....and most of all the woman whom we desire. So quit being a little girl and and be a woman and pull away. I guarantee he'll come running. If he doesn't...well then you know he is a sleese ball |
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jo-jo-7
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| nikir wrote: | Jojo, I wait, barely breathing, for your next suggestion. Who needs television?
It's late here and I'm going to bed, but will look in tomorrow as soon as my eyes open, to read your words of wisdom. |
Patience is a virtue. Good things come to those who wait. |
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MrSpice
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| jo jo 7 wrote: | | nikir wrote: | Jojo, I wait, barely breathing, for your next suggestion. Who needs television?
It's late here and I'm going to bed, but will look in tomorrow as soon as my eyes open, to read your words of wisdom. |
Patience is a virtue. Good things come to those who wait. |
nikir is right - this whole thread is very silly. I am truly amazed that there are women like the poster who are so naive. She met some guy online that she never saw or met in real life. For all we know, this guy may be sitting in his unerwear playing with himself and sending messages to 10 different girls. What can we say about someone who we never met? The answer is - nothing. What can we recommend to someone who lives in Miami, communicates with someone she does not know and Russia and posts long messages asking questions about that virtual "relationship" - the answer is simple - find someone real in real life and abandon romance over the wire with strangers from another country. That's an honest and true answer. |
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jo-jo-7
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| MrSpice wrote: | | jo jo 7 wrote: | | nikir wrote: | Jojo, I wait, barely breathing, for your next suggestion. Who needs television?
It's late here and I'm going to bed, but will look in tomorrow as soon as my eyes open, to read your words of wisdom. |
Patience is a virtue. Good things come to those who wait. |
nikir is right - this whole thread is very silly. I am truly amazed that there are women like the poster who are so naive. She met some guy online that she never saw or met in real life. For all we know, this guy may be sitting in his unerwear playing with himself and sending messages to 10 different girls. What can we say about someone who we never met? The answer is - nothing. What can we recommend to someone who lives in Miami, communicates with someone she does not know and Russia and posts long messages asking questions about that virtual "relationship" - the answer is simple - find someone real in real life and abandon romance over the wire with strangers from another country. That's an honest and true answer. |
I think the best place to meet a person is at the museum or bookstore. I know several people who meet over the internet and have already got married. True, one has to be careful who you meet and that could happen anywhere not just the internet. |
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mediashark
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I think the best place to meet a person is at the museum or bookstore. I know several people who meet over the internet and have already got married. True, one has to be careful who you meet and that could happen anywhere not just the internet. |
True. (Living example!) But in order to have the relationship move forward from online you have to get IRL quick... |
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BlackCat
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Geez People...LOL! This is JUST a forum on the internet! No need to take things so seriously! OBVIOUSLY, nothing could/will happen with this guy until we meet in real life (which would be under some very specific circumstances). And anyway, I have solid proof of who this guy is in real life (long story) otherwise, I wouldn't be bothering in the first place! Now everyone has given me some very valuable advice and I will consider all that was said. By the way, I know about cultural difference as I used to live in Europe and was living with a man in Sweden (he was Finnish) for 4 yrs. Before you know the facts about someone (which is obviously impossible under these circumstances), I wouldn't judge!
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BlackCat
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| And Mr. Spice (you silly man!), Please keep your actions to yourself! Nobody wants to know what you're doing when you're on these forums (i.e. sitting in your underwear, playing with yourself)! LOL But, you are right about meeting someone in real life...it's just that I have yet to meet a man where I'm from who's the least bit interesting and like I said, I'm going to Russia anyway (not by myself), so you never know what could become with this guy. Right now, I'm keeping my options open. |
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MrSpice
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I think the best place to meet a person is at the museum or bookstore. I know several people who meet over the internet and have already got married. True, one has to be careful who you meet and that could happen anywhere not just the internet. |
With all due respect, what has anything you just said have with her question? She is not talking about internet dating. Internet is a good tool, and plenty of people meet their future soulmates online. That's not what we are talking about here. We are talking about virtual relationship with someone who lives in a different country, speaks a different language - someone she's never met and is not likely to ever meet in real life. So when you have this strange virtual relationship, trying to make judgements about someone you never met is simply silly. |
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yorbcbud
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| BlackCat wrote: | | And Mr. Spice (you silly man!), Please keep your actions to yourself! Nobody wants to know what you're doing when you're on these forums (i.e. sitting in your underwear, playing with yourself)! |
But he soooo loves to share with all of us here.  |
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jo-jo-7
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| MrSpice wrote: | | jo jo 7 wrote: |
I think the best place to meet a person is at the museum or bookstore. I know several people who meet over the internet and have already got married. True, one has to be careful who you meet and that could happen anywhere not just the internet. |
With all due respect, what has anything you just said have with her question? She is not talking about internet dating. Internet is a good tool, and plenty of people meet their future soulmates online. That's not what we are talking about here. We are talking about virtual relationship with someone who lives in a different country, speaks a different language - someone she's never met and is not likely to ever meet in real life. So when you have this strange virtual relationship, trying to make judgements about someone you never met is simply silly. |
Who said I was making judgement? We are on the subject anyway, plus this thread is about a relationship. I am merely giving a opinion and suggestion on it. I think the internet is a great way to meet a person opposed to a bar. Anyway, I do believe she is going to meet this guy and she already knows him. Spicey, she PM me.....like I said, Russian men take their time in relationships to the point where they could lose someone. No offense to Russian men they have their way of doing things but, gawd this is not 1940. It doesn't hurt to be patient and accepting but, how long does anyone have to wait for a move on the relationship. It is okay to be a little slow but when the Christmas tree goes up three times something is wrong. Just my opinion. |
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krasatulya
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| I don't know about this whole notion of Russian men being slow to make things happen in a relationship. This may be the case with some men, but my husband definitely has a take charge attitude. He initiated asking me out to dinner and drinks when we first met...he certainly wasn't shy about making it known that he wanted to see me. |
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