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Miana
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 Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 12:43 am Post subject: How to relate with a young russian man? |
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| Hello, my name is Miana. On Thanksgiving Day I met a young Russian man here in Copperas Cove, Texas. In the town I live in, this young man goes by the name "Russia" and everybody in this tiny little town knows him very well. His family runs a liguor store down the street where I live and he is always in the store. On that day, this young man asked me out. He told me that he would pick me up and take me to his place after he got off work because he has to run the store. Anyway, he picked me up, took me to his place, and told me that he was Russian, his sign is Cancer, he was a loner, and didn't date women very often. He then tells me that Russians drink Vodka, Vodka shots. So, we had some shots of Barcardi Rum, I had one too many shots, and too make the long story short, I got very sick and vomitted all over his clean place. He was a gentleman with me, put on clean clothes on me, and took me home. The next day I wrote to him a letter of apology for what had happened and wanted to make up for that evening. My question to you is, How can I convince him to give me another chance? How can I make up for that evening? Will he call me ever again? He did tell me that everything was cool with him and that he would give me a call as soon as he gets some time off from the store. How can I be sure that he will call me? Or did I blow my chance with this gentleman. He is Russian and I am very attracted to him. Will you help me with this matter? Thank you so kindly. email me back with your answer to {starliteangelm@yahoo.com} Miana aka "Gypsy" |
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overseas_expat
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Young lady, that was all in very bad form.
You are lucky that he responded with such gentlemanly sympathy. He sounds like a really nice guy.
You can convince him of nothing. Leave him be. If he wants to see you again he knows where to find you.
Until then, mind your manners. |
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jo-jo-7
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| Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 1:20 am Post subject: Re: How to relate with a young russian man? |
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| Miana wrote: | | Hello, my name is Miana. On Thanksgiving Day I met a young Russian man here in Copperas Cove, Texas. In the town I live in, this young man goes by the name "Russia" and everybody in this tiny little town knows him very well. His family runs a liguor store down the street where I live and he is always in the store. On that day, this young man asked me out. He told me that he would pick me up and take me to his place after he got off work because he has to run the store. Anyway, he picked me up, took me to his place, and told me that he was Russian, his sign is Cancer, he was a loner, and didn't date women very often. He then tells me that Russians drink Vodka, Vodka shots. So, we had some shots of Barcardi Rum, I had one too many shots, and too make the long story short, I got very sick and vomitted all over his clean place. He was a gentleman with me, put on clean clothes on me, and took me home. The next day I wrote to him a letter of apology for what had happened and wanted to make up for that evening. My question to you is, How can I convince him to give me another chance? How can I make up for that evening? Will he call me ever again? He did tell me that everything was cool with him and that he would give me a call as soon as he gets some time off from the store. How can I be sure that he will call me? Or did I blow my chance with this gentleman. He is Russian and I am very attracted to him. Will you help me with this matter? Thank you so kindly. email me back with your answer to {starliteangelm@yahoo.com} Miana aka "Gypsy" |
I say invite him over for dinner. I would go into his store and say "Look I am having dinner Friday night". Give him a time and hand him your address on a nice Thank you card. Do you still have the clothes he put on you? If so, then tell him this dinner is in appreciation for taking care of you while you were sick and that you want to return the favor and the clothes...this way he has to come and pick them up...so make something really nice by hand not by a box and get some red wine. Drink it slowly. Show him you are a lady by taking your time ad not downing Rum by shots....okay! Just a suggestion.. |
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surfguy
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| I agree with expat...trust me the guy is no gentleman and actually pretty tacky really...first date he took you back to his place and got you plowed...good thing nothing else happened. But Expat is right and take heed to her words! |
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RusskiCanadian23
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| surfguy wrote: | | I agree with expat...trust me the guy is no gentleman and actually pretty tacky really...first date he took you back to his place and got you plowed...good thing nothing else happened. But Expat is right and take heed to her words! |
So if a lady comes to my house and get plastered it is somehow my fault? Just hypothetically?
Miana, just don't worry about what Surfey here says, he doesn't know what he talking about, unless it's about Bush and the war in Iraq.
Look, just call him and tell him you wanna meet. He'll probably say: "Sure, where, when?". Trust me, most of us, Russian guys, get drunk so bad, at times, that if a lady did it, we wouldn't give a sh*t (just because you are a lady, usually, I write the whole word  ), if a girl did it. It happened to all of us (happened to me more then once), so, unless he is some kind of a snob "intelligetsya" type, he wouldn't care.
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yorbcbud
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| RusskiCanadian23 wrote: | | surfguy wrote: | | I agree with expat...trust me the guy is no gentleman and actually pretty tacky really...first date he took you back to his place and got you plowed...good thing nothing else happened. But Expat is right and take heed to her words! |
So if a lady comes to my house and get plastered it is somehow my fault? Just hypothetically? |
Thats not even what ex pat said anyway. The gist of it was that the lady was in bad form, and the man was a gentleman. And how could you be responsible for a woman who doesn't know when to stop drinking. We are all responsible for our own actions. In theory, anyway. |
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surfguy
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Nope...let the man chase you! Ultimately it is your decision...good luck though with however you decide.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4YniapoFfVo
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RusskiCanadian23
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| yorbcbud wrote: | | RusskiCanadian23 wrote: | | surfguy wrote: | | I agree with expat...trust me the guy is no gentleman and actually pretty tacky really...first date he took you back to his place and got you plowed...good thing nothing else happened. But Expat is right and take heed to her words! |
So if a lady comes to my house and get plastered it is somehow my fault? Just hypothetically? |
Thats not even what ex pat said anyway. The gist of it was that the lady was in bad form, and the man was a gentleman. And how could you be responsible for a woman who doesn't know when to stop drinking. We are all responsible for our own actions. In theory, anyway. |
Good. 'Cause I have a lot of women coming over to my place on Christmas... and I don't want any problems.
P.S. Surfguy, way to twist everything around and accuse the guy of "taking her to his place and getting her "plowed"". |
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surfguy
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I never twisted what Ex Pat said...I stated my opinion based on what i read and then I concurred with Ex Pat. I said heed the words of Expat...i never stated heed my words. But let's face it...on a first date he takes her after work back to his place to drink...gets her plowed...Tacky!! IMHO. None the less...different strokes for different folks.
Ok gotta represent the ladies being drunk here
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DryEmFCJLYM&feature=related |
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jo-jo-7
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| RusskiCanadian23 wrote: | | yorbcbud wrote: | | RusskiCanadian23 wrote: | | surfguy wrote: | | I agree with expat...trust me the guy is no gentleman and actually pretty tacky really...first date he took you back to his place and got you plowed...good thing nothing else happened. But Expat is right and take heed to her words! |
So if a lady comes to my house and get plastered it is somehow my fault? Just hypothetically? |
Thats not even what ex pat said anyway. The gist of it was that the lady was in bad form, and the man was a gentleman. And how could you be responsible for a woman who doesn't know when to stop drinking. We are all responsible for our own actions. In theory, anyway. |
Good. 'Cause I have a lot of women coming over to my place on Christmas... and I don't want any problems.
P.S. Surfguy, way to twist everything around and accuse the guy of "taking her to his place and getting her "plowed"". |
Russki, I hope it's your mom, grandma and your sister coming over for Christmas and not other women..  |
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Miana
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| Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 10:33 pm Post subject: On how to get this Russian guy I met give me a 2nd chance. |
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Hello again, Miana here in Copperas Cove, Texas. Hello to everyone. Thank you very much for all your responses and good advices. I just want to say this on some of the comments I read, First off, that young fella did behave appropriately and so did I. We both were having a nice time at his place. He was very cool about the whole incident. I, on the other hand, will admit this, I should've known better when to stop with those shots, I was the one trying to impress him by thinking I could handle it, and it back fired on me. But the following day, I did leave a very nice long letter with a Christmas Card on his front door inviting him to a candle light dinner with some wine to make up for that evening and to thank him for taking care of me and for not getting upset. Upon receiving the letter and the Christmas Card, the guy did call me back and told me that I didn't have to cook him any dinner, or buy him anything, or pay him back for that night. He said that everything was cool with him, that I was cool with him, but that he was going to be very busy all week running the store, but that when he did get some time off that he would give me a call so we could hang out. My concern was this, Do you think that maybe, perhaps, he was a little bit bothered by the whole thing, or maybe he just doesn't want to see me right way? Or is he "blowing me off" in a nice way? The reason I ask is that I'm embarrassed to walk into his store just to say "hi" because I didn't want him to think that I was like stalking him or anything like that. I just wanted another chance to make up for that evening so he could see another side of me. What should I do or what should I believe? Miana aka "gypsy girl"  |
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surfguy
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| well good then and it does sound like he was/is a gentleman. Ok well you reached to him and made an offer...all you can do now is...wait for him to call you...and when he does...just let things evolve. Good luck... |
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StephenB.
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| NO, the guy was gay and just wanted to do her hair and makeup...He's a straight guy, he wanted to get with her...please get with the program guys. Stop being so naive. |
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krasatulya
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| Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 12:15 am Post subject: Re: On how to get this Russian guy I met give me a 2nd chanc |
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| Miana wrote: | | My concern was this, Do you think that maybe, perhaps, he was a little bit bothered by the whole thing, or maybe he just doesn't want to see me right way? Or is he "blowing me off" in a nice way? |
As you will learn about Russians, they are very straight forward with their thoughts and opinions. If he had some problems with what happened that night, he would certainly let them be known to you. I haven't met a Russian yet who "beats around the bush" with their feelings. Some may interpret this as cruel, but at least you can't accuse them of not being honest.
You let him know you're feelings; the ball is in his court. I would not bring up the subject or pursue him any further. Let him contact you when he's ready. |
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vox16
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| Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 1:28 am Post subject: Re: On how to get this Russian guy I met give me a 2nd chanc |
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| Miana wrote: | | Hello again, Miana here in Copperas Cove, Texas. Hello to everyone. Thank you very much for all your responses and good advices. I just want to say this on some of the comments I read, First off, that young fella did behave appropriately and so did I. We both were having a nice time at his place. He was very cool about the whole incident. I, on the other hand, will admit this, I should've known better when to stop with those shots, I was the one trying to impress him by thinking I could handle it |
Sounds like an old thing like 'Are old enough to drink' --Oh yes -- and drink a gallon of booze to prove it. Next time you have a booze competition with him he shall give you odds - e.g. 1 your shot for his two, or normalized by body mass or somehow like it.
| Quote: | , and it back fired on me. But the following day, I did leave a very nice long letter with a Christmas Card on his front door inviting him to a candle light dinner...... he would give me a call so we could hang out.
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aint he into booze more than into all this stearine-illuminated glutting session?
| Quote: | | My concern was this, Do you think that maybe, perhaps, he was a little bit bothered by the whole thing, or maybe he just doesn't want to see me right way? Or is he "blowing me off" in a nice way? |
So what can you change except wait till the end of the week? |
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