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Paul Holmes · VIP Joined: 12 Apr 2005 Posts: 965

Basically in English, who seek shall find the way, who does not seek, shall find the problems.

Miki · Just Starting Joined: 25 Jan 2008 Posts: 1

Who seek shall find the way, who does not seek, shall find the reason.

V8orBetter · Frequent Guest Joined: 12 Sep 2007 Posts: 32

I received another email from her yesterday. This time it was pretty clear that things aren’t looking to good for me. She emailed me saying that she doesn’t know if she’s coming back and that she really feels good in Russia, but she misses me and also she doesn’t have money for a plane ticket back to the U.S. So to me that either means she wants to come back but doesn’t have the money or she doesn’t want to come back and using the no money for plane ticket as an excuse.

CAjules · Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 12:28 am Post subject:

Coriale

Ok, Ive ready everything from last September on this and all your responses up til now. I am an American man, live 1/2 the year in Russia and the other 1/2 in the United States. Ive been to Russia many times now and for extended periods all the way from Moscow to Krasnodar, the Black Sea, Sochi, Restov, Novorssisk, and where i live right now in St. Petersburg. My girlfriends have been all Russian for the last 5 years. I feel that Russia is my home as well as the United States. I am very comfortable here and theres no starnge feelings here at all. I feel very much at home here.

Now, I agree with most of the people who have responded to VBorBetter and now id like to share some of my views on this situation. Ive been in the same boat as you VBorBetter but I had more maturity and common sense to deal with it. Its obvious by your postings your immature yet, never really been in love before, VERY inexperienced, and over the top analytically about everything in realtionships. Dont take that personal, its just an observation that will help you, being able to take constructive criticism is essential to your growth as a person but more importantly on how to handle situations when it comes to girls and relations with them.

As far as this girl was concerned I would have told you back in October that if she didnt e-mail you within 2 weeks after her arrival back in Russia then let her go. It doesnt matter what circumstances or fantasies you had in your mind about her KIDNAPPING in NYC, her not being able to find internet to e-mail you, This is just immature, nieve thinking and you basically were making yourself believe what you wanted to beleive in your own mind. I know this is easier said than done but were here to help you and thats the advice I would have given you.

Furthermore if this girl was really into you she would have given you all information about her address, phone numbers, and whatever else to make sure you would have open, steady, realtionship with good communication. This is the key to every successful realtionship: GREAT COMMUNICATION!!! The crap about her being at the Black Sea and soaking up the sun is garbage, not being able to contact you is is just a case of " Out of Sight, Out OF Mind". More than likely she was with another guy who was Russian. The fact is for her, you were someone to hang out with and feel safe with while she was in America! She liked you yes, but not in the way you liked her. A girl that feeds you French Fries while riding in the car is not LOVE. You need to get over this, and the best medicine for a broken heart is to move on to someone who will appreciate you and not play games with your head. Thats my advice to you, feel free to ask me anything you want because Im only here to help you!!!

staleek · Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 7:07 am Post subject:

Absence may make the heart grow fonder, but distance will drive a stake right through it.........

dinara · Just Starting Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Posts: 6

I agree with Coriale completely.
It is very difficult, but you have to do it - forget her. Crying or Very sad

jo jo 7 · Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:54 pm Post subject:

V8orBetter · Frequent Guest Joined: 12 Sep 2007 Posts: 32

she wrote back again. This time she was so upset because I hadn't wrote her in a month and she was also upset b/c she thought I forgot about her.

Here's her exact message below.

"I'm so upset, 'couse u haven't written to
me for ages? What's happened? Did u forget me, I'm checking my mail
every day but there is no letter from you! r u alive?"

If she has no plans to come back, why is she so upset? I don't get it.
What does this message mean?

Paul Holmes · VIP Joined: 12 Apr 2005 Posts: 965

I had a GF from Russia who acted the same way.
Kicked the shit out of me and then missed me and repeated the process.

After two years of this shit, I decided that I am not going through with it anymore. I will remain friends and only friends.
If she decided that she wanted to play games, have some fun with others, or see if there is someone better, and I would sit back and wait until she makes her decision, then she was wrong. Life goes on

I think she has to tell you the truth, but first she has to tell herself the truth. She treated you with disrespect and improperly. It is not like petals of a flowers where she loves and loves you not. Maybe she does not know what she wants, so is that what you are looking for is a big maybe? Stop punishing yourself.

Maybe it is me that I am not romantic and that I do not believe in that one true love, but

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alex57410859 · Just Starting Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 1